Today I read an article on Cracked that made me discouraged…and then encouraged. You see this article was on why you haven’t achieved anything. Yes you and I. It’s pretty depressing stuff and uses some foul language so you’ve been warned. HOWEVER, it’s also encouraging. It shows that you are like everyone else and there are ways you can change. It part of that crazy section of psychology of “you suck, it’s pretty dam near impossible for you to stop sucking, but actually it’s really simple for you to stop sucking. But you may still suck.”
Anyway you may want to read it. But this got me to think very critically about why I haven’t achieved many of the goals I’ve set out to. Here are some quick reasons why.
- I had too many goals
My goals were unrealistic
My goals were too abstract with no actionable points
I was afraid (this is a big one)
I got distracted by another goal
I gave up when the going got tough (see I was afraid)
I wanted the rewards and didn’t really want the work (see previous points)
I didn’t have the skills I needed
Honestly, I think points 4, 5 and 6 are the key ones. The others all form around that. If I had kept putting in the work, then I would have got the skills and the rewards, If I wasn’t so afraid of succeeding and failing at the same time, I would have tried harder. If I had not been distracted by a million ideas, then I would have stuck to my one goal.
The first three are just why my goals were harder or took more time. I firmly believe that smart goals are useful, especially when you consider that the only way to become something or someone is to do something (What does a writer do? Writer, so how do you become a writer…not write? NO DUMMY! [admittedly “Just Write” is terrible advice too])
With all that in mind, it great to think about for the goals I want to achieve (and yes I want to achieve the goal not do the goal which is probably a sign of the problem).
I wrote this post earlier in the week but in the meantime I heard the productivityist podcast with guest Patrick Rohne. In the episode they spent sometime talking about Resolutions and why Patrick doesn’t have resolutions but instead has intentions for the year. His reason for this is because he thinks resolutions have become lazy, uncommitted and weak. Where as an intention is stronger.
I have to agree with him. Everyone expects you to fail a resolution and yet the word comes from Resolve (decide firmly on a course of action.) and Resolute (admirably purposeful, determined, and unwavering). Hardly something people should fail or give up on. That just goes to show how easy it is to fail, give up and not make that change.
I feel it reinforces the point from the cracked article, The odds are against you changing. If you want to change, you have to work for it. As John Maxwell says.
What is holding you back?
Do you have a list of things which stop you achieving your goals? Leave a comment below and share your struggles.